living alone always proves to be an interesting and awakening time. we've all been told that challenges provide us an opportunity for growth. if this is true, i've got some serious growing pains!
living on my own has represented many defining moments throughout my life. this time is no different. of course, it is not entirely accurate to say that i live alone, considering my space is also filled with the energy of a beautiful, happy newly turned 4-year old boy. but periodically there are moments, once the little dude is down for the night, and our space is quiet, i miss something, something i haven't had since he arrived, a partner, someone to share space. now rather than spend a lot of time ruminating over how tough it can be, how this is not the way i wanted to parent, to live. the facts remain, this is tough, this is the best i can parent, and this is my life. how i live it, is up to me.
so to add a bit of sugar to this sometimes sour recipe, i thought it wise to go back to the tried and true -- write a list of pros and cons. in doing so i found my lesson, that reminder i needed. for every negative exists a positive. life is always a blend of sweet and sour....here's a small sample of the pros and cons to living single...feel free to pile on....
PROS
time to unwind and veg out on my own
silence
free reign in my kitchen
as much dead as i feel like playin
chick-flicks
uninterrupted sleep
CONS
no one to unwind with at days end.
no out-loud conversations, just the silent ones in my head.
inability to open jars, bottles (and any item that they screw the fuckin' lid on too damn tight)
no division of labor
no one to help hang that much needed ceiling fan
uninterrupted sleep
6 comments:
i love how you always look at the bright side...
here's a few more pros:
no dirty socks on the floor
toilet seat down
snore free nights
world cup soccer, march madness basketball and fantasy football tourneys can be completed avoided
and i'm sure the docta could give you a few of his own :)
hey where's your bling?
I suppose the grass is always greener, but here's a few more pros:
a cleaner space, picked up just as you'd like it
one less person's laundry
never having to share the computer
But, I would have a ton of cons to list as well. Kudos to you for looking on the bright side, as always.
I'm sure I too could think of a lot more pros...
If I "lived alone" I'd have a house free of noxious gas (that my hubby passes)
Anyhoo, just FYI, I did email a mom that has triplets on the autism spectrum and I haven't heard back from her yet. I'm hoping my email didn't go in to her spam folder :(
I can't imagine living alone, it must be tough for you. I'm moving out of my parents house and getting an apartment with my boyfriend in about 7 months and even that seems scary! It's true though, at least you'll have some more time to just relax. Maybe this will be a rewarding experience because you'll have time to grow and learn more about yourself!
LOL at the opening of jars.
More pros:
No pee-splattered toilet seats (except for kid splatter, which is somehow more palatable because you birthed him)
Consistency in parenting
mamacita - i am so with you on the snore free nights and dirty socks..especially when they fold them so you have the *pleasure* of unfolding them prior to washing!
ally- sadly, my place still isn't much cleaner...hmmmm.
wm-lol
sm-i suppose cleaning a little one's splattered toilet seat is a *bit* better...though man ever since potty training, i swear our bathroom smells like a locker room, how can i help the little dude with his aim...he likes to go *hands-free*.
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